IFS Couples Counseling
Cultivate deep relational intimacy by reconnecting with your true Selves and the parts within
Explore your Inner Worlds
Even in loving, committed relationships, couples can get stuck. You try to talk — and it turns into blame. You try to retreat — and your partner gets louder. You feel misunderstood, exhausted, and unsure how to reconnect.
These painful cycles don’t mean your relationship is broken — they rather reflect unconscious parts of us carrying pain and protection. While communication tools may help in the moment, they rarely reach the root: the inner parts of us carrying unresolved emotional wounds fueling protective parts that attempt to avoid further pain and shame.
What We Offer
IFS Couples Counseling invites you and your partner to relate to yourselves — and each other — differently. It offers a compassionate path inward, where each partner explores the many “parts” that make up their internal world — each carrying emotions, needs, and protective strategies — and learns to lead that system from Self: the calm, compassionate, curious presence at the core of each person.
From this place, you’ll learn to recognize when parts are activated, tend to them with care, and return to Self-leadership. Rather than reacting with blame, withdrawal, or attempts to fix one another, you’ll begin meeting each other with clarity, curiosity, and connection. Each partner becomes responsible for their own healing, creating a relational field rooted in safety and mutual trust.
This work shifts the focus from “you versus me” to a shared commitment to understanding. It reduces the burden of trying to get your partner to meet every emotional need — and instead invites both of you to reconnect with openness, emotional honesty, and a deeper intimacy that arises naturally, without pressure or defense.
What You’ll Experience
Parts-based awareness
Recognize that both you and your partner have many parts — some protective, some wounded — and that all are welcome, understandable, and ultimately seeking safety, love, and connection.
Partnership as an ecosystem
See your relationship as two interwoven inner systems, each influencing the dynamic between you.
Self-leadership
Learn to care for your own inner parts rather than expecting your partner to do it for you.
Compassion in conflict
Instead of reacting, pause to notice which parts of you are activated and tend to them with care before re-engaging.
Relational safety
Co-create a climate of trust and connection through a mutual commitment to Self-led presence.
Deeper intimacy
Move beyond reactivity by relating from Self — where warmth, authenticity, and connection are naturally restored.
Is This Right for Us?
Feel stuck in patterns of conflict, blame, withdrawal, or emotional distance
Love each other but struggle to feel deeply seen, understood, or safe
Want more than surface-level behavior change and are ready to explore the root dynamics beneath conflict
Are willing to engage in inner work, be curious, and take responsibility for your parts
Wish to create a resilient relationship grounded in Self-awareness and shared growth
Couples Walk Away With
In our sessions, you’ll receive expert guidance to navigate patterns like blame, withdrawal, polarization, and reactivity — not by fixing behaviors, but by tending to the protective and wounded parts beneath them.
Each partner is supported in accessing their Self — that grounded, compassionate core — and learning to relate from that place, even in moments of tension. This compassionately facilitated process helps you move through stuck dynamics with more awareness, integrity, and emotional honesty.
Greater emotional safety and mutual trust and understanding
The capacity to pause and respond from Self, rather than react from parts
More compassionate listening and deeper attunement with one another
A growing ability to lead life from your authentic Self, not from past pain
A renewed sense of intimacy, vitality, and shared purpose
Inner systems that support rather than sabotage your connection
Package
2 Month Commitment
8 sessions
Work two-on-one with Rasika or Dayal in 75 minute weekly sessions (or 3x per month). Text and voice note support is available in between.
Interested, but hesitant? Book a Clarity Call.
Starting couples therapy can feel daunting — especially if past attempts left you stuck, unheard, or even more disconnected. That’s why we offer a complimentary 30-minute Clarity Call for couples. It’s a chance for one or both of you to get a feel for the process, ask questions, share what’s not working, and explore how IFS can support you and your partner in reconnecting from the inside out.
In our 30-minute Clarity Call, you and your partner will:
Get a clear, compassionate overview of how IFS works in relationships
Share your goals, hopes, and current challenges — without judgment
Begin to experience the safety and depth this approach offers
Discover how inner and relational parts work can bring healing to your dynamic
Courageous communication is a way of speaking and listening without attacking and defending, or withdrawing and collapsing. It is the art of remaining embodied in Self, even when your partner is not, and speaking for your parts rather than from them.
— inspired from Internal Family Systems Couples Therapy Manual